So look right here. Hey everyone Shawn McGuire, marriage counselor Edmond, here with the New Vision team and we’re so glad that you guys could join us today. Today we have our very new therapists, Gina Helms. She comes all the way from Sweden and she’s joined our team and we’re so excited. She brings about four months of experience in the counseling room. I’m just kidding. She brings you lots of experience of coaching enthusiasm and energy to our team and we’re really excited about really the people she’s already seen lives that are being changed. So if you guys could just celebrate with us and we of course misty who has her own little basketball team, she’s got like five to 12 kids, something like that. And we’re excited because today Ben is going to teach you guys from the fires of his own trials in life. So amazing things. So simplifies that. Simplify your life, or what does it renew? Renew three ways to, is this the one I hit to make it light yourself daily?
Yeah, look at that. There you go. You are. It was a little bit dark, but now we’ve seen the life. All right. So three simple ways to renew your life with Ben Thompson before bed. Let’s go with our theme of renewal for this month. Oh, I thought always each, each day how we renew ourselves and there’s a limitations. Uh, three it talks about, it just makes me sad when you say that Haley, limitations at the, at the end, this is what makes it so more impactful. Right at the end of this limitations there is this or this little meant there is this talks about how God’s mercies are new every morning and it’s really, it’s great as God’s faithfulness. And so if we talk about every day there’s, those mercies are renewed. So we’re going to talk about renewal today. Just three ways that you can renew yourself every day from your marriage counselor Edmond. Cause you know, a lot of times we need that in a day. Um, I was writing in a blog post about this that a lot of times we can just get in life and feel like there aren’t new days.
It’s just one really long day. Yeah. Right. And if there’s not, that transition in the way of celebrating the new day just feels like kind of same song, different verse kind of thing. So we’re really trying to figure out what, what are some ways we were coming into ourselves so we can start that in the morning. So how, what is your morning ritual? I say roosters Crow, right? And that your neighbor’s dog might bark, um, the birds start chirping. Uh, that’s the kind of way of starting the day, right? A lot of times, the way we started it was like this or what about this news? I was trying to get up, you know, and it’s like we, we started our day delaying the day to day, how we start our day. Unless you’re, unless you’re Sean here, we’re not sure if he sleeps. Actually once in awhile we got to find ways to renew our, our, our day and always having a ritual in the way that you do that.
So I encourage, you know, you can do that in a lot of different ways. Um, a lot of people get up. You’d be having a morning meditation that you have, um, either specific morning prayer or morning motto that you have. Um, so is this a little, it’s a little gruesome, but 150,000 people didn’t wake up this morning like they did item. I mean statistically and we don’t wake up a lot of times and think it’s just a big deal that I woke up for. I’m just blessed to be awake. Like today. My first thought today, today is a gift I saw missy is when you wake up in the morning at 3:00 AM, is it like, I’m just glad to be here. Yeah, sorry. Sorry. We create that morning ritual. Something to be say we thank God. I mean you just wake up and say thank you. You know, if you just said thank you or jumped out of bed and said thank you, um, or, or here’s the way I do this.
I don’t recommend this, uh, for, for the faint of heart or if you have any medical conditions, medical conditions that were counter indicate this. I drop in and about the first 15 to 30 seconds of my showers is ice cold. I just turned the hot on. I heard that. Good research drop in. There’s a lot of good research for a marriage counselor Edmond. I jump in and I just bear it for about 15 to 30 seconds. So during fuller you do your breathing changes. Everything goes. Yeah. Having a morning ritual, something that you do, I’m greeting the day. Being thankful for that day can be a huge way just to start the day. Just get a new day that a lot of times we, we need that. We don’t want to live the the last five days. Again, it’s about this one to be a new one, so be in God’s new mercies today.
Then the second way that I talk about this is breathing. I’m watching the way you breathe. So Sean does did it. Um, sometimes we don’t. I mean, how many times do you think during the day, Hey, let me just check in and see how I’m breathing. We’re not really thinking about that, but do you have an apple watch? I’m to breathe APP and it doesn’t, it does. Watch do every hour. Um, so you’re thinking, how am I breathing? Checking in with your breathing. Hey, here’s one way we breathed. When we’re anxious, he’s not breathing guys. [inaudible] we’re anticipating something or you know, for just a little more breathing, a little bit faster than normal. We don’t take time to notice this, but our bar, our body is asking your breathing to kind of tell us how things are on the outside. I mean, really our, our breathing kind of indicates what the world is. Just check in with our breathing, or a marriage counselor Edmond, to do that. Yeah. Monday, the good breath earlier and one way to do that. One just to check, see how you’re breathing. And two, I just tell you and I read some research. It’s like six, six breaths, six, six second breaths can do it. So kind of in through your nose
and out really starts reorient your body and get your body back into maybe a renewed state or at least maybe out of the anxious state or out of the anticipation of the fearful state through your hands. So we can do a lot with just changing our breathing. So that can be really be real renewing. It’s a huge rush of life, right? Yeah. Yeah. So we take in oxygen without breathing. We’re, we’re, we’re done. We’re one of those 150,000 people that don’t like out. Yeah. Yeah. So make sure, and then one, just make sure you’re breathing. But I think if you notice it, and I mean for you’re aware of it, it’s interesting how you just notice your breathing and you might say, how can I could have taken a breath all day, you know, just people say that actually your body, I’m going to tell him to breathe all day, which means you haven’t had time to slow down your cadence enough.
Yeah. To calibrate to being present and just relaxing and letting go of whatever’s come upon you. Yeah. Which is part of the deal too, right? Yeah, absolutely. A release. And sometimes you know, I’ll do so the clients just have them breathe and then who do you see somebody mailed off? Sometimes I forget to do that as a therapist and just remind myself to breathe, especially in difficult sessions. Just laid out. Yeah. Take a breath. It’s okay. Last way I would say renewal is do you have meaningful connection with God and with others every day. Um, you know, I’m, I’m more introverted as a marriage counselor Edmond. Sean’s a lot more extroverted. Uh, he’ll, he’ll talk to you, he’ll talk to anybody and everybody he needs. Even as an introvert though, if I’m not having meaningful conversations, well I’m not connecting with somebody during the day. I start to feel just kind of isolated, just kind of lonely.
You just kind of feel that it’s just, it’s just you. And so connecting with others as a way of reminding yourself, hey, there’s a bigger purpose out here. I’m connected to something bigger than myself and it can be really renewing. So having conversation with somebody that you enjoy, that’s probably part of the key. Having good conversations. Yeah. Cause you can have conversations with people that are like vampires and that’s attached to you or like ticks, you know, you don’t want the conversation with the, with the vampires but, but with people that you enjoy and that you can kind of renew, renew that. And so I have those renewing conversations and of course with God as well, connecting with God and thanking God and praising God and having conversation with God in a way to renew yourself. We need those reminders. We need that. Cause that’s your relationship, isn’t it?
Yeah. Yeah. What’s you’re saying? It’s the relationship, the connection. It’s, you know, thanks for tuning in guys. Let us know where you’re from. But it’s really the, they’re really stepping into the way that God made us. And without breathing we die. Yeah. But that waking up, we sleep here. That relationships, we live a bane existence. That it doesn’t matter. Like what’s the value of having an existence here without a relationship that was connecting. You know, I know, I don’t know about you guys, but I know that there is relationships that I have or the people who are like, ticks are, they’re around you. They just feel like they’re on you and that you just know it’s not healthy. Right. Some people, not a marriage counselor Edmond, ticks are kind of just annoying, but the longer you’re around them, the more you just kinda feel sick and maybe get you lymes disease going.
And then there’s people that are like vampires. You feel their things in her neck and you’re just like, oh, I can stand. Barely stand to be around him. But then there’s those people like you’re talking about that they renew your life but they energize you like your relationship with Christ. I know in the morning that’s part of my morning routine is that I spend time with God because that time energizes and informs the way I live the rest of my day. What do you girls think? I have to look what’s going on back here on the spot. All right. What’s going on back here in the gallery of wisdom things I do. I starting the night before miss these five foot one or a Gina’s five for, no, I’m just kidding. She’s in a, she’s in a short chair. She’s actually six 11 but I’d like to start the night before and when I go to bed I just lay there and I go, I think back through my day and I just thank God for all the good things that happen in a day. And it’s amazing to me. When I started doing this, I thought, well, I might think of two or three, but I will literally just go through like every step of the day and I’m amazed I will. I fall asleep thinking, you know, thanking God for all the things that he does. Force that throughout the day. And when I do that, it seems like I just wake up in better spirits. I wake up, just thankful, grateful and, and more cheerful. So that’s kind of one of the methods I use to renew myself. Pause.
That’s really good. I do something like that too. I use it. I finished up about 3:00 AM finishing up thanking God and then I’d go to sleep. But ours got ride though, if we were to be honest. Right. What about you miss you? What kind of, I know you have a lot of things that you do, a two 309 which was like you do like I know, well,
kind of jumping on the back of the relationship thing, like just being mindful of the people that you’re surrounding yourself with because if they’re just spewing out negativity, like understanding that you’re like taking that onto yourself and then you’re more likely if you don’t release that and refill yourself with positivity, that you’re going to pour that same thing out onto others. That’s why it’s important to have a marriage counselor Edmond.
That’s so true and it’s draining. It is. You know something I think a lot of people don’t realize is that when our voice and our mouth is used to sow seeds of death, even if it’s people say, I’m just being honest, you know, if your honesty is sucking life out of your relationship with your friends, with your spouse, with your kids, with your employers or employees, then it’s not being godly. It’s just not. It’s a fact. You can, you can be factual and not godly. So I would just encourage you to think about whatever you’re saying out of your mouth, you’re sowing seeds into the future that you’re going to live in and that the future will be the harvest of the seeds that you’re selling right now. So I just want to encourage you that we want to run new. That’s why the gods is renew your mind through the washing of the word.
Then you’ll be able to test and approve what is good, pleasing and perfect will is, and I think you know, there’s a lot of science and research that goes into some of this, you know, meditating on all night, the things that God has done. You know, the Bible’s clear, meditating on the word day and night when you’re walking, when you’re talking and you know, Jean has got the message version. It probably says when you’re sleeping, you know, the message version is just something somebody put together and just put all the cool things you thought you’d be in the Bible. But I think for Gina that lets her have whatever words that God has been speaking through the day she highlights them and then they have access to her mind when she’s sleeping to kind of mill mall through her subconscious and our spirit all night so that they can go deeper into who she is.
Now, Ben, you want to recap on all the three amazing lessons that you kind of said today? Yeah, rituals, rituals are important and that’s really good about, Yup. So guys, I hope that you enjoy this today. You know, Rehab and division counseling, a team of Christian counselors that love God and love people and we’re on a mission to help you discover what better looks like for you and then equip you with the tools to create it. And you may be listening to this thinking, Oh man, my spouse totally needs to be like, like in terms you on your elbow, people, I don’t ever do that, but I saw Gina do at one time. But you may be thinking of a friend or family member or even a spouse or that needs to hear this, share this with them that that’s great, but you may say, you know, Sean, I know somebody, or maybe it’s you that you want more. You, you, you feel like you need somebody to partner with you in this journey called life and help you navigate through the difficult struggles that you’re having. Whether it’s marriage counselor Edmond, parenting, career challenges, stress, anxiety, all of those are things that we know that we can give you a chance to move through when we, you call us today, or you contact us, go to New Vision counseling.org we have a new website coming out. I’m not going to say it, but I almost did, but now it’s new as in counseling.org and you.